Coughing after drinking in last/severe stage vascular Dementia

Discussion in 'Middle - later stages of dementia' started by flower1, Jan 9, 2015.

  1. flower1

    flower1 Registered User

    Apr 12, 2013
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    I have been to visit my mum in her nursing home today and have now been told that she is not having tea (thickened) anymore as will not drink it. Instead they are giving her blackcurrant juice which is thickened (to an almost syrup style). I helped give this to Mum (off a spoon as instructed) but noticed after every couple of swallows she started coughing everytime and went red in face and I could hear a loud chest noise/heavy breathing going. I asked was this normal and just told this is how it is now with your Mum. My question is which did not get answered is this the swallowing reflux getting worse and will it keep getting harder for my mum to swallow with this regular pattern of coughing after it. She is approaching her 5th year of vascular dementia and I have been told mum in last/severe stage (immobile, doubly incontinent, liquid meds, very odd word speech, glazed look, sleeping more but not end of life except I have to keep signing this end of life paperwork at nursing home? She is not frail her weight seems to have maintained but to me does look physically different especially her face which is more hollow and drawn now. Thank you for reading and any feedback much appreciated because I don't always have anybody else to speak with who will understand. xx
     
  2. keywest67

    keywest67 Registered User

    Mar 19, 2012
    169
    Coventry
    Hi Flower1,

    I can only advise on my own experience with my Dad and your Mum sounds virtually in an identical stage to how he was last Nov, he kept coughing when taking drinks, he then got aspiration pneumonia because the drink went onto the lungs and causes an infection so it is a concern however I think this is often how the illness progresses, my Dad had Alzheimer's and vascular dementia, it's very hard to watch them go through this isn't it, I do feel for you
     
  3. flower1

    flower1 Registered User

    Apr 12, 2013
    124
    Hi keywest67, firstly thank you for taking the time to reply to me. I appreciate your feedback and agree that the aspiration pneumonia must be a high risk at this stage, I am sorry about the passing of your Dad and hope all is ok with you. I start to feel now whether my Mum could be nearing the final months stage if this is happening now on a regular basis and wonder if it would be a good idea for me to chat with her doctor if I cannot get the answers from her nursing home or is it just best to let it run it's cause, so hard because no matter what I do not want my Mum to suffer or be in pain xx
     
  4. keywest67

    keywest67 Registered User

    Mar 19, 2012
    169
    Coventry
    Hi,

    Thankyou for your kind words, yes I'm getting by day by day thankyou.....to be honest over the past 3years since Dads diagnosis of Dementia it's felt like a long goodbye and it was like Dad slowly faded away from us, although his death was traumatic I now am starting to feel a sense of relief I don't have to see him in such an awful way and he is at peace.

    Yes I think it would be a good idea to speak to your Mums Doctor, we found it very difficult to speak to Dads Doctor in the care home, I would almost say thinking about it they were reluctant in getting the GP to speak to us directly, I got the most honest view of Dads prognosis from the Consultants when he went into hospital which was a number of occasions in the months leading up to his death.
    Ultimately they are not able to do anything when it gets to final stage, and we basically have no option but to let it run its course, I think as long as your Mum is comfortable and not distressed it's the best you can expect, they advised me against having a feeding tube for Dad towards the end......I basically agreed as I cannot see the benefit to anyone in prolonging the life for someone who has no capabilities or quality of life, I think it's just prolonging the agony.
    Sorry, it's such a depressing subject isn't it , wishing strength for you in the difficult times ahead.
     
  5. Canadian Joanne

    Canadian Joanne Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 8, 2005
    15,990
    Toronto, Canada
    My mother has also been having coughing problem after liquids. Her liquids are now what they call 'honey thick' and it has helped a great deal. Unfortunately, this is simply a progression of the disease. Mum has been on thickened fluids for some months now and I am confident she will be with us for some time.

    Perhaps they need to thicken your mother's fluids a bit more? It wouldn't hurt to ask, and I agree with keywest that it would be a good idea to speak to your mother's doctor.
     
  6. flower1

    flower1 Registered User

    Apr 12, 2013
    124
    Thank you for your reply and advice Canadian Joanne. I will make an appointment for a review with my Mum's doctor hopefully this way I can get a more detailed prognosis for Mum to help put my mind at rest. Good luck with your Mum too in the months ahead x
     
  7. flower1

    flower1 Registered User

    Apr 12, 2013
    124
    Thank you for your second reply, I do find this very helpful as you have been through this journey and will understand. I am going to make an appointment with my Mum's doctor so I can speak with him personally about Mum. I just hope that Mum does not go on and on with this as from what I can see the more it prolongs the worse it gets. What I do understand is that also I have no control either (to a certain degree) and have to go with it even though your heart is so sad inside. Thank you xx
     
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  9. Kikki21

    Kikki21 Registered User

    Feb 27, 2016
    1,932
    Female
    East Midlands
    When my mum first went into hospital after she had a big seizure & then several smaller ones, her swallow was affected & she would cough incessantly but the SALT team checked her out twice & couldn’t find an issue.

    Her coughing has now eased so it could have been the remnants of her chest infection that she had had. Her eating has diminished though & she is also in the later stages of vascular dementia & Alzheimers. In fact, her consultant told us that her life expectancy could be measured in terms of weeks & months.
     

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