Coronavirus

Bikerbeth

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Feb 11, 2019
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Bedford
Aged Mother no longer can use the phone

So i text the overstretched carers & ask how she is... coping well!

i wish i was .... the guilt is eating away at me

Do i abandon my asthmatic daughter & take my "vulnerable person " to care for Aged Mother?

Or do i put family first this time...?

oh i know the answer ... family first this time

logically Aged mother has everything in place she requires - 4 visits a day, painrelief etc she's mostly sleeping ....

but this isn't what i'd hoped for after the trauma of Dads passing.

So sadness is my new bedfellow ...

This disease has huge impacts on all aspects of life, that this is my major worry means i am one of the lucky ones!

stay safe & healthy folks xxxxxx
It maybe a sad decision but I think it is the right decision for what’s its worth. Your Mother has a care package in place and as you said she is mainly sleeping. So ‘whack’ that guilt monster and look after family including your vulnerable daughter
 

Lawson58

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Aug 1, 2014
2,165
Victoria, Australia
I had to go into our local shopping centre this morning to collect my new glasses (cataracts and glaucoma) and it was really weird. There wasn't much open, just a couple of pharmacies and phone shops and my optician so apart from a a small number of security people I was totally on my own.

The main streets were empty of traffic and people and there I was standing completely on my own in the middle of my home town,
 

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Dimpsy

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Sep 2, 2019
1,409
Just a little thing that has brightened the day.

My neighbour opposite has started to print out a daily poem, which she pins to a post for people to read on their daily walk.
The first was The Lake Isle of Innisfree, which, by chance, my mum can recite frontwards, backwards and sideways. It's a schooltime memory that has stuck when so many memories have been lost.

I take mum for a walk every day and now we have a lovely poem to end the walk with. Today's was about the wind being gentle with a little girl.
We can see just how many people stop to read; their aren't many that don't.
 

Dimpsy

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Sep 2, 2019
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Oh how lovely @Dimpsy. What a great idea. I love The Lake Isle of Innisfree,

Edit - unlike your mum I could only remember the first 2 lines! I had to look it up. I'm gad I did.

Mum had been living with us for 6 months and she woke up on 27th December 2017 and recited it. I was so staggered I made a note in my diary and then printed a copy for me to keep and it is s lovely poem isn't it.

I hope that my neighbour keeps going with the daily poem after we have come out the other side.
 

Sarasa

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Apr 13, 2018
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What a lovely idea @Dimpsey. I might try and do something similar. Lots of people walk up and down this road (though fewer than normal with no school or university open), but it would be good to have something to cheer them up.
I've spotted lots of rainbows in windows and signing thanking the NHS, the bin men and the posties. I probably ought to do that too.
 

Dimpsy

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Sep 2, 2019
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What a lovely idea @Dimpsey. I might try and do something similar. Lots of people walk up and down this road (though fewer than normal with no school or university open), but it would be good to have something to cheer them up.
I've spotted lots of rainbows in windows and signing thanking the NHS, the bin men and the posties. I probably ought to do that too.
My granddaughter showed me her window rainbow today, so that's tomorrow's job to look forward to, out will come the felt tips, although mum is good at colouring in so that could be her job while I do the bin men and posties, thank you @Sarasa for keeping me up to date!!
 

mickeyplum

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Feb 22, 2018
134
Ok thanks,I will have to look in to that,it would be nice for me to avoid people at the shops as I have type 2 diabetes,but we still have 8 carers entering our house each day so I can't do much about that
I've taken to enclosing a little 'gift' in the birthday cards I've recently sent to family and friends. Namely, 2 neatly folded pieces of toilet paper with the wish that they will enjoy them when next they have a big occasion to celebrate...like diarehea. Toilet humour maybe, but it's made them smile.
(The reason I can be so generous is, with my constipation I only use one roll a year.)
 

Izzy

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Aug 31, 2003
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Dundee
I've taken to enclosing a little 'gift' in the birthday cards I've recently sent to family and friends. Namely, 2 neatly folded pieces of toilet paper with the wish that they will enjoy them when next they have a big occasion to celebrate...like diarehea. Toilet humour maybe, but it's made them smile.
(The reason I can be so generous is, with my constipation I only use one roll a year.)
😂 😂 😂
 

Wishing20

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Feb 27, 2020
12
Mums care home is now closed to all visitors, this decision was made late yesterday. To be fair they do have some very vulnerble residents and Covid-19 would certainly knock them off their feet for the worse. They couldn't tell me how long this will last at the moment.

Its not great as mum needs visitors, but as things are its best to be safe than sorry
My Mum’s home is also closed to visitors.
I have personally found this very very emotionally tough as my Mum has only just moved into a home and whilst during the first few weeks she was unhappy she had settled down to a routine where I visited every day and took her out for a walk with our dog and she was very happy.
I am worried about this ban on visitors on her understanding of this situation and I know it will really bother her not being able to go out for a walk.
She’s not good on the phone so I have decided to write to her... my first letter is being sent today, its a one page brief chatty letter and I hope it will bring her some comfort.
x
 

Dimpsy

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Sep 2, 2019
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My Mum’s home is also closed to visitors.
I have personally found this very very emotionally tough as my Mum has only just moved into a home and whilst during the first few weeks she was unhappy she had settled down to a routine where I visited every day and took her out for a walk with our dog and she was very happy.
I am worried about this ban on visitors on her understanding of this situation and I know it will really bother her not being able to go out for a walk.
She’s not good on the phone so I have decided to write to her... my first letter is being sent today, its a one page brief chatty letter and I hope it will bring her some comfort.
x
That's what I used to do for my mum after dad died and before she moved to live with us. She was across the other side of the country and very lonely, so I wrote a couple of times each week and usually included a photo or postcard, great-granddaughters drawings, magazine, even a free supermarket magazine is something to look at and helps to while away the time. I used to write about simple stuff, what we'd had for dinner, watched on the telly, who we'd talked to and I know the letters were something she came to rely on. I bought stamps and large letter stamps so it was easy to write and post.

The awful thing was having to keep the letters open and chatty because mum's attorney at that time used to open her post first. He would throw her correspondence in the bin sometimes if it wasn't to his liking.
Thankfully his position was revoked for underhand behaviour and neglect.
 

WestCountryGirl

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Jul 27, 2016
100
The biggest issue for care providers is that they are not being provided with the PPE that the Government promised. I did see on the regional news last week a care provider saying they had received 300x 'one use' Government issued masks, with 1000+ care workers doing 24,000 home visits a day. I am feeling somewhat comforted by the talk of the viral load affecting how ill someone becomes. For those being cared for at home on their own or with a spouse / partner I feel the risk is far lower. My biggest concern is actually how family members behave and the precautions they take themselves not just in visiting their loved ones but how much social distancing they themselves are practicing. I finally managed to get myself a thermometer and am taking my temperature 3 x a day minimum so that the slightest increase in temperature I will withdraw my availability as looking at symptoms charts I see that the top symptom is a temperature (some 87% of test confirmations, i.e. some will have no symptoms) and the next is a cough, therefore the initial reports that it starts with a cough and then the temperature obviously is not always the case. I do feel, again from researching that handwashing is far more effective than alcohol gel, and it is certainly cheaper. I think we all have to keep thinking all the time about what we are doing and when I first started a few weeks back it felt like my mind was going to explode, but now things have become much easier and just the things I am doing all the time. I think pressure put on the Government via email / letters to our MP's demanding the promised PPE is vital as otherwise it seems we keep getting hollow promises and ever extending timescales.
 

Melles Belles

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Jul 4, 2017
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South east
I wondered if he was struggling with the virus when he didn’t come of isolation just after Matt Hancock did. I hope he gets well soon. I feel for his pregnant partner she must be so stressed and I hope she recovers quickly too (I’m not a fan of his politics though, but that’s not important now)
 

Lawson58

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Aug 1, 2014
2,165
Victoria, Australia
I wondered if he was struggling with the virus when he didn’t come of isolation just after Matt Hancock did. I hope he gets well soon. I feel for his pregnant partner she must be so stressed and I hope she recovers quickly too (I’m not a fan of his politics though, but that’s not important now)
But he looked pretty silly when he was talking about shaking everybody's hands when he visited a hospital, saying that he had washed his hands so all good!
 

Duggies-girl

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Sep 6, 2017
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I thought he didn't look very well on his last couple of appearances, I hope he makes a good recovery. This corona virus is getting quite scary now and I am worried for anyone that needs to be hospitalised.