Hi all. This is the first time i have posted a message on this site, so allbeit a bit nervous. My dad was diagnosed with dementia almost 3 years ago, and has also had several frontal lobe strokes. He had another stroke 4 months ago and is now in a care home and seems to be deteriorating on what seems a weekly basis. Sometimes he knows who i am, sometimes he doesn't, sometimes he smiles at me and sometimes is abusive, he was never one to swear, but some of the words that now come out of his mouth, I cannot comprehend. My mother cared full time for him with my help until he was moved to the care home, and not only do i find it difficult to cope with dealing with the fact that my dad sometimes doesn't recognise me and coping with the fact that he has dementia, and the big strong man who looked after me all my life, protected and loved me has gone, but also the fact that I have to deal with my mum's emotions on a daily basis. Today, I could have moved to the other side of the world and run away. Is this normal?????????