Hello. I have just joined this community. My husband has dementia. Twelve months ago he was almost normal, but now he is in a very bad way. His speech is confused although he still knows his surroundings, our pets and so on. My main concern is what is a good reason to place him into care? I would rather keep him at home as long as possible except that I am having problems with his personal hygiene. He is now refusing to let me give him a body bath and he refuses to allow a carer in to assist in this. He wears dentures, but hasn't cleaned them in months. He occasionally shaves and washes his hands. There is a dementia unit locally except that I don't like it and neither would he as it has a very small outdoor area. I have placed him on a waiting list at a dementia care home 40 minutes away by car, except that he is not familiar with this place. I am really struggling to know what to do. I have no family on hand and am doing this on my own.
My husband is not on any medication. He was prescribed Donepizil (?) but refuses to take it or any medication in general. He is 81.
My question is: Is there any way around the hygiene issues? Should I not worry about it and hope that eventually he will agree to me washing him or if not should he go into care?
Thank you for reading this.
My husband is not on any medication. He was prescribed Donepizil (?) but refuses to take it or any medication in general. He is 81.
My question is: Is there any way around the hygiene issues? Should I not worry about it and hope that eventually he will agree to me washing him or if not should he go into care?
Thank you for reading this.
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