Hi, I could really use any advice anyone has if they have been in a similar position.My dad has vascular dementia brought on my a stroke. It is now in the middling stage.My stepmother whom I have never really got on with is at the end of her tether. She is pretty much coping with dad on her own apart from one day a week he visits a day care centre. Every time I phone she seems more and more depressed and angry and I am worried she is taking it out on dad. She openly admits she shouts at him. I have suggested it may be better for both of them if Dad went into a care home - I think secretly she really wants this but says that they cannot afford it. They are comfortably well off but she is considerably younger than him and is worried that there will be nothing left for her old age. I have to be really careful what I say otherwise she will just stop taking my calls as sge has done with dad's sisters.I don't feel I can just stand by and watch it get worse but I cannot look after dad and he lives 90 minutes away so visiting is not frequesnt. Any ideas?.