I went to a course today run by a woman who has 30 years experience working with people with dementia and who charges $125 for a one hour consultation.
She says it's better not to go and visit the person if you are feeling anxious/down, to have your 'clown face' on all the time you are with them, to act, to smile all the time, to be reassuring and calm all the time, to leave immediately if you feel you are having an anxiety spike - so where does that leave family members with mental illnesses, where does it leave 24 hour carers - are they supposed to suppress their emotions/take acting classes for years on end?
What a joke! This would be ok for professional carers - people who are paid - but people who love them? Isn't that denying them the sufferer the dignity of being a human being who can be related to? Isn't that like we used to treat 'lunatics'? Just stay calm and try not to upset them..... To me, that's taking away a valuable part of the interaction - sometimes if they know they can still upset you, they know you still love them - sometimes they want to help you if you are having problems - it makes them feel valued and needed still.
What happens if someone in the family has schizophenia/depression - does that mean they are forbidden from caring for/seeing their loved one?
What an artificial and superficial load of ********!!!
I mean yes, avoid having major melt downs in front of them.... but showing other emotions apart from smiling benignly - anything more likely to make a person feel dissociated and nutty I can't imagine!!!
She says it's better not to go and visit the person if you are feeling anxious/down, to have your 'clown face' on all the time you are with them, to act, to smile all the time, to be reassuring and calm all the time, to leave immediately if you feel you are having an anxiety spike - so where does that leave family members with mental illnesses, where does it leave 24 hour carers - are they supposed to suppress their emotions/take acting classes for years on end?
What a joke! This would be ok for professional carers - people who are paid - but people who love them? Isn't that denying them the sufferer the dignity of being a human being who can be related to? Isn't that like we used to treat 'lunatics'? Just stay calm and try not to upset them..... To me, that's taking away a valuable part of the interaction - sometimes if they know they can still upset you, they know you still love them - sometimes they want to help you if you are having problems - it makes them feel valued and needed still.
What happens if someone in the family has schizophenia/depression - does that mean they are forbidden from caring for/seeing their loved one?
What an artificial and superficial load of ********!!!
I mean yes, avoid having major melt downs in front of them.... but showing other emotions apart from smiling benignly - anything more likely to make a person feel dissociated and nutty I can't imagine!!!