Hi I am new to this forum, my mum has vascula dementia and is in a nursing home and has been there since dad passed away in Aug 2012. For the 1st christmas we brought mum out and to our home for christmas dinner she didn't really enjoy the experience and got quite aggitated once back at the care home she settled and we stayed with her for a good 1 and a half then left. She appears so happy in her own little world at the ch and appears to feel secure I was thinking about not bringing her out this year but it seems so cruel, we would visit, but she is so bad on her legs now and would not even be able to get up the stairs to the toilet and I worry that she would be like last year very aggitated, but how do you live with the guilt of not having mum for christmas day when I think of all the lovely christmas's that she supplied me with ? It is such a cruel disease!!!: