I am tempted to avoid this topic as someone was looking for research on the subject, but it is important so I'll post anyway. Would just like to nip it in the bud that researchers looking for information in this way can make members like me feel uncomfortable about posting! Hi All, Could anyone give any advice for christmas. My mum who I have a great deal of respect for has decided that she would like to spend xmas alone with dad. We would love to see them but must respect her decision as lets face she has to pick up the pieces when we leave. As dads Alzheimers has progressed he has found it increasingly difficult to cope with large groups and now even small family gatherings seem to make him feel uncomfortable. Mum is concerned that the turmoil of the event will cause to much confussion for my dad and it will just take too long for him to adjust after the event. So it seems the right thing to do. My question is whether other people have noticed this problem as part of the progression of Alzheimers and is it healthier to avoid these situations. Should we try and encourage socialising or take not of his discomfort. I think after writing this that I have answered the question myself, it is probably best to do what makes him comfortable. However, I would really be interested in other peoples experiences particulary at gatherings like christmas, birthdays etc. Many thanks Charlie p.s. Please note, I do not want to have ANY contact with the copywriter who posted the thread 'coping with xmas' for research purposes.