HI,
I'm new here and have just had a really dreadful fortnight. My mum was recently diagnosed with AD but my Dad has been caring for her mobility needs for years. The complications came about two and a half weeks ago when my father went into hospital for a knee replacement operation. I went to stay with my parents for the first two weeks to provide support while dad was in hospital and when he came out as they live a significant distance away from us. Things started well, but when dad came out of hospital 2 days later, it was as if there was a competition for my attention. Then dad had complications with bowel/bladder, and because mum has significant disabilities I needed to help him on a practical level. Complications got worse and ended up with dad going back into hospital in ambulance two days later. It was all quite traumatic without the AD. However, after that, Mum resented everything I did. I was running round trying as hard as possible to keep everything to the normal routine whilst taking mum to visit at the hospital. By the end of 10 days mum would;t talk to me, and then told my sister that I was shutting her out and taking over. She also accused me of shouting at her and telling her to leave. I was so upset, as I'd tried so hard. My brother has just been there for a week, and I'm due to go back this week (as Dad still needs care and can't drive for quite a while yet).
I'm just anxious to do the right thing as far as possible, and to try and avoid getting upset myself. It's hard as Mum has mobility needs that mean she struggles regardless of the AD.
I'm new here and have just had a really dreadful fortnight. My mum was recently diagnosed with AD but my Dad has been caring for her mobility needs for years. The complications came about two and a half weeks ago when my father went into hospital for a knee replacement operation. I went to stay with my parents for the first two weeks to provide support while dad was in hospital and when he came out as they live a significant distance away from us. Things started well, but when dad came out of hospital 2 days later, it was as if there was a competition for my attention. Then dad had complications with bowel/bladder, and because mum has significant disabilities I needed to help him on a practical level. Complications got worse and ended up with dad going back into hospital in ambulance two days later. It was all quite traumatic without the AD. However, after that, Mum resented everything I did. I was running round trying as hard as possible to keep everything to the normal routine whilst taking mum to visit at the hospital. By the end of 10 days mum would;t talk to me, and then told my sister that I was shutting her out and taking over. She also accused me of shouting at her and telling her to leave. I was so upset, as I'd tried so hard. My brother has just been there for a week, and I'm due to go back this week (as Dad still needs care and can't drive for quite a while yet).
I'm just anxious to do the right thing as far as possible, and to try and avoid getting upset myself. It's hard as Mum has mobility needs that mean she struggles regardless of the AD.