Help and advice please. My husband is a very gentle soul of only 66 and I am 61. He has been suffering from Alzheimer's for six years. The problem is ME not him. I have always been a short tempered person. I now find myself at times loosing my temper completely and being so unkind and on ocassions nearly violent. I know I am wrong, but I am unable to stop myself. Life is not always like this, we usually have a great time together, but when I flip, I really flip. I am sure that I am not the only unpleasant (at times) carer out there.