Hi everyone, I'm in need of a shoulder I guess. My dad with Alzheimer's lives with mum. Both mid 80's. I popped in today for a couple of hours after the carer had left. My mum had had to clean up poo that was spread about the bathroom after my dad had removed his pully ups and spread it all over. (Sorry for giving you this image) this was before the carer had been. The carers came in originally to put him in the shower but the care plan was changed a few weeks ago to include foot care (talc that's all) putting on cream to his dry area an to help make the bed if it needs to be changed. Today when I went into the room there was both urine and poo in the bed. Im not sure if he puts the cream on or not. I'm really quite anxious that my elderly mum is being made to deal with this on her own or she leaves it also and my dad is left not properly cared for. It is impossible for me to go every day. I wish it wasn't but it is. My mum doesn't want to make a fuss. There are very few male carers and if we complain the carers may not come at all. I sort of agree with her. I basically felt the need to rant. I feel totally unable to do anything about this and very vulnerable.