Hello
we have reached the dreaded day...mum got a lot worse last week and went into emergency respite with a view to it being permanent. has been an awful depressing few days and poor dad looks so down.
The CPN is coming to meet with us on tuesday and no doubt social services will be out soon but I just wondered if you could all tell me what to expect.
At the moment she is in a lovely home we once used before for respite. It's 2 roads away from dad's house and is more like a big old house than a nursing home. the staff are lovely. to be honest the thing that keeps me going is the thought she could stay there permanently.
However, the top up when she is in respite is about £185/week I think which dad pays. At the moment though he's getting some benefit I think that helps cover it and also mum gets a benefit for having dementia. Her pension is a very small one, not sure how much but don't think it will go far.
When she goes to a home, am I right in thinking that all her benefits stop anyway as the home is being paid for instead? And that dad would be left to pay the top up? None of us could afford to pay nearly £800 a month even between us.
Just wondered what to expect before we get to tuesday? I have no idea how any of this works. Its rubbish enough without worrying about money but the thought of having to move her somewhere else is pretty unbearable. She seems so well cared for where she is.
thanks in advance
jackmac
we have reached the dreaded day...mum got a lot worse last week and went into emergency respite with a view to it being permanent. has been an awful depressing few days and poor dad looks so down.
The CPN is coming to meet with us on tuesday and no doubt social services will be out soon but I just wondered if you could all tell me what to expect.
At the moment she is in a lovely home we once used before for respite. It's 2 roads away from dad's house and is more like a big old house than a nursing home. the staff are lovely. to be honest the thing that keeps me going is the thought she could stay there permanently.
However, the top up when she is in respite is about £185/week I think which dad pays. At the moment though he's getting some benefit I think that helps cover it and also mum gets a benefit for having dementia. Her pension is a very small one, not sure how much but don't think it will go far.
When she goes to a home, am I right in thinking that all her benefits stop anyway as the home is being paid for instead? And that dad would be left to pay the top up? None of us could afford to pay nearly £800 a month even between us.
Just wondered what to expect before we get to tuesday? I have no idea how any of this works. Its rubbish enough without worrying about money but the thought of having to move her somewhere else is pretty unbearable. She seems so well cared for where she is.
thanks in advance
jackmac