Hi I introduced myself less then a week ago, as I was so distrot about my mum, who is only 65 (Christine) and is in the last stages of alzhimers. At the time we had been told that she had to go into a NH, I still can't stop crying (it is very anoying), when I hear special songs etc etc. Anyway the reason for writing is that my Dad has finally found a NH that he likes (mum when back into hospital on Friday and they will not let her go home so the decision was taken out of his hands, he had no choice but to find a NH). My parents have no savings so SS will be paying. However, when he went to look at the home he was asked to pay £35 a week extra, he told them he could not afford this and they dropped the amount to £10 a week. What I want to know is, is this normal? Should Dad have to pay? I have a Sister and 2 brother, and if we each pay £10 a month to dad he won't have to foot the bill. Oh yes and one other thing (if anyone has experience of this), mum receives a pension & attendance allowance will dad lose these? Debby.