I,ve just moved dad to a care home and the guilt is terrible. I live 212 miles from him and although his dementia is early to mid I just couldn’t keep travelling to care for him. He sees no one most days and just sits, recently stopped reading the newspaper and gets very distressed at any problems in the house. Is also forgetting meds and not changing underclothes very often or top clothes unless I prompt him, stopped brushing teeth and needs prompt to shower. Physically fit for 88 so looks young in the care home. I just decided this was the safest option as he’s been like this for 18 months now and it can only get worse. It’s the distance that makes it impossible to manage. Also he cries every time I arrive and when I leave which breaks my heart. He’s not settling well in the home but it’s only day 5. He can’t understand tha5vhis mind is sick whereas others he sees are physically sick but mentally alert. He already can’t remember how he got there and we moved his things in slowly over a week, each time he came with me.