My Mum was due to go into a care home for a week next month for my dad to have respite as she has had dementia since 1999. However her behaviour has deteriorated over the last few months (ever since the Dr. prescribed diazepam instead of lorazepam – I have told the Dementia unit this and they said they’d talk to the Dr). Mum has gone into a care home for a few nights this week (ironically the same one that she is booked to go into next month) for dad to have emergency respite but I called the home today and they said she is bad during the nights – not sleeping, going into other bedrooms etc, crying constantly for her mother (who died over 40 years ago) and that she needs more 121 care and that they wouldn’t be able to take her next month. They can’t understand how someone has so much energy despite the fact that she doesn’t sleep and the manager was astounded by the fact that she’d had dementia for 19 years. I’m at my wits end tbh. I took today off work to sort out my own things but have just been on the phone to the CP nurse/dementia unit. I think me and my dad are at the end of what we can cope with. We hoped she would have enjoyed the care home (as she likes going to day centres where she can have more activities). Does anyone know if 121 care is more expensive or what – I know nothing about all of this. If the care home can’t cope how is the family supposed to cope?