My mum has Mixed dementia, Vascular dementia / Alzheimer's. She appears to be in mid stage. My dad is her main carer and he hasn't asked for any help yet because he has been able to cope so far with my help. My dad has found out he needs a pacemaker even though he feels absolutely fine. Although he will be an outpatient when he has the procedure, there is a very small chance he may have to stay in hospital overnight. And when he comes home after the procedure, he will obviously need to rest. My brother and me have offered to help with my mum. But my mum needs lots of help with toileting and dressing, which neither me or my brother have done before. And we're not sure how my mum will react to my dad not being there when he's at hospital, especially if he has to stay in overnight. And she doesn't understand what's he's having done, so won't understand my dad needs to rest afterwards. The obvious answer would be to arrange care for my mum. However my mum has not had any care so far, and she does not take kindly to strangers, and has been known to lash out at people and try to walk off or out. I'm not sure what to do for the best to help my dad. Any suggestions gratefully received.