Care at later stage of dementia

Discussion in 'Middle - later stages of dementia' started by Rekha gupta, Jun 29, 2019.

  1. Rekha gupta

    Rekha gupta Registered User

    Apr 24, 2019
    13
    Hii
    My mom is suffering frm dementia. She is 7th stage. Now she dis not speak anything nor she able to walk. She is just only around 60 age. She eats food, drink water, milk. I use adult diaper daily for routine bathroom and toilets. As now she is not able to walk a step, i dont know how to take care of her. How to bath her. How to make her sit strate. Plz someone help regarding this as i love my mom so much. I cant see her like this.
    Thanks
     
  2. Beate

    Beate Registered User

    May 21, 2014
    11,740
    Female
    London
    Contact adult social services and ask for a needs and carers assessment. Also ask for a referral to an occupational therapist or physio.
     
  3. Rekha gupta

    Rekha gupta Registered User

    Apr 24, 2019
    13
    I am from rajasthan, india.. here adult social service is not available.. plz guide me how to take care of her now in this stage
     
  4. Beate

    Beate Registered User

    May 21, 2014
    11,740
    Female
    London
    That crucial bit of information would have been helpful in the first post. I'm sorry, I have no idea how the Indian system works. I hope someone else can help.
     
  5. nitram

    nitram Registered User

    Apr 6, 2011
    19,236
    Male
    North Manchester
    Have you seen
    https://dementiacarenotes.in/resources/india/ ?

    Unfortunately searching the largish site for rajasthan does not bring up any hits.

    If you scroll down there are many email addresses and phone numbers to use to ask for help with various concerns.
     
  6. Wifenotcarer

    Wifenotcarer Registered User

    Mar 11, 2018
    255
    Central Scotland
    Is your Mom in bed all day or can you manage to get her up into a chair? If you cannot get her to sit or stand by the sink while you wash her with a cloth, then you could try using wipes for babies to keep her fresh and clean. Are you in touch with anyone else with the same problems? or maybe a Doctor, Nurse or welfare worker?
     
  7. Wifenotcarer

    Wifenotcarer Registered User

    Mar 11, 2018
    255
    Central Scotland
    Here is another Link to services in India http://ardsi.org/default.aspx
     
  8. Rekha gupta

    Rekha gupta Registered User

    Apr 24, 2019
    13
    Hii
    I can make her sit bt only for 5 min aftrr rhat she started to bend. I have to take her on my arms as she does not walk a step. No i have not in contact with any person who has the same problem. Here dementia is very rare. I will try baby wipes but as she is full adult baby wipes will not be very helpful. Plz suggest me anything by using my nd my mom will become easy little bit.
    Thanks
     
  9. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    69,858
    Kent
    Hello @Rekha gupta

    Do you have a local hospital or clinic you can ask for help.

    Do you have neighbours who can ask for help for you.

    When you are giving personal care to your mother would it be easier for you if she was lying on the bed.

    You cannot be expected to care for your mum all by yourself. It is too difficult.
     
  10. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,777
    Female
    South coast
    When you clean your mum do it while she is in bed. Use a bowl of water and a sponge, or cloth to clean her and dry her on one side, gently turn her over and clean her on the other side, then finally place her on her back to clean her private area. It is best to keep a separate cloth to clean that area. Watch out for pressure sores which look like small red marks usually on the heels, elbows, spine or bottom. These, if left, become blisters and becomes an ulcer. Once this happens it needs medical attention, but you can help to prevent it by moving her in her bed several times a day (ideally every 2 hours) - turning her over and placing her in different positions - and as soon as you start to see a red mark use barrier cream, the sort used on babies bottoms, 2 or 3 times a day.

    It sounds like she would need to sit in a reclining chair - one where the back is tipped back rather than upright. In UK I would say that you need a hoist to move her as you may damage your back, but Im guessing that you cant get hold of one.
     
  11. canary

    canary Registered User

    Feb 25, 2014
    10,777
    Female
    South coast
    This is a really helpful you tube on giving bed baths @Rekha gupta
    I know your mum wont be able to help, but it shows you how to do everything
     
  12. Rekha gupta

    Rekha gupta Registered User

    Apr 24, 2019
    13
    Thank u so much for your help. I will take care of the steps you told me
     
  13. Bunpoots

    Bunpoots Registered User

    Apr 1, 2016
    3,295
    Nottinghamshire
    Hi @Rekha gupta

    If you have time it's worth looking for Teepa Snow on YouTube. She has videos about caring for people with dementia right up until the end stages including how to dress and help with feeding and drinking when that becomes necessary. I found her very helpful.
     
  14. Ray96

    Ray96 Registered User

    Sep 29, 2018
    87
    It will probably become difficult though for you if you are on your own, do you have anyone else there that could help you?
     
  15. Rekha gupta

    Rekha gupta Registered User

    Apr 24, 2019
    13
    Thank u so much i will check out the videos u mentioned.
     
  16. Rekha gupta

    Rekha gupta Registered User

    Apr 24, 2019
    13
    Yes it is very difficult as i have to manage other things also .No i am on my own
     
  17. Ray96

    Ray96 Registered User

    Sep 29, 2018
    87
    So sorry to hear that. You see I was on my own too but got lots of help in the last 8 months of mums life.
     
  18. Rekha gupta

    Rekha gupta Registered User

    Apr 24, 2019
    13
    But i have no one to help here. Can u please tell me what is her last stages symtemos and how can i help her better and about what things i should care much in this stage . Thanks
     
  19. Shedrech

    Shedrech Volunteer Moderator

    Dec 15, 2012
    8,088
    Yorkshire
    hi @Rekha gupta
    are you able to access vidoe clips via the internet, as some are useful and may help you eg the Teepa Snow ones already mentioned

    I did an internet search of videos only using the terms 'giving petsonal czre dementia' with these results ... not sure how much this will help
    https://www.google.com/search?clien...ws-serp..0.6.998...30i10k1.0.nncXguqJQeA#ip=1

    you could try a variety of searches with more specific terms

    and some of the pages on the main AS site may be of use
    https://www.alzheimers.org.uk/get-support/daily-living

    sorry not to be able to help more
     
  20. Rekha gupta

    Rekha gupta Registered User

    Apr 24, 2019
    13
    Thank u so much for your help
     

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