Hi Guys,
My mum is 87 and has vascular dementia (same symptoms as Alzheimer's but different cause)
Last year has been OK, I called in 3-4 times per week, did her cooking, shopping, cleaning etc. She coped well even going upstairs to bed every night
Then last month she had a small stroke (lacunar infarct) which knocked her off her feet and put her in hospital.
Hospital sorted out her heart with new medication, but said that her dementia was too advanced for her to live alone.
Social Services got involved and said they would not support a regime of care workers visiting her at her own home and wanted to put her in care home. They told me the care home they had in mind was not the best and had patients with 'challenging behaviour'. So I put her in a slightly better one as we could afford fees.
The thing is she has spent last few years begging me not to put her in a care home, she doesn't like the one she is in, and while her physical needs are being cared for, she is spending a lot of time sitting alone in her room staring at the wall, doesn't even want telly on.
Much as I would like to I cannot support her 24-7 as I also have grandchildren to child mind (The sandwich generation), but I could call in on her 7 days a week, and she has enough money to pay for nurses to visit her, but not to pay for 24hour care.
Have any of you moved parents out of care home back to their own home, have you any thoughts on the perils and pitfalls?
Dave
My mum is 87 and has vascular dementia (same symptoms as Alzheimer's but different cause)
Last year has been OK, I called in 3-4 times per week, did her cooking, shopping, cleaning etc. She coped well even going upstairs to bed every night
Then last month she had a small stroke (lacunar infarct) which knocked her off her feet and put her in hospital.
Hospital sorted out her heart with new medication, but said that her dementia was too advanced for her to live alone.
Social Services got involved and said they would not support a regime of care workers visiting her at her own home and wanted to put her in care home. They told me the care home they had in mind was not the best and had patients with 'challenging behaviour'. So I put her in a slightly better one as we could afford fees.
The thing is she has spent last few years begging me not to put her in a care home, she doesn't like the one she is in, and while her physical needs are being cared for, she is spending a lot of time sitting alone in her room staring at the wall, doesn't even want telly on.
Much as I would like to I cannot support her 24-7 as I also have grandchildren to child mind (The sandwich generation), but I could call in on her 7 days a week, and she has enough money to pay for nurses to visit her, but not to pay for 24hour care.
Have any of you moved parents out of care home back to their own home, have you any thoughts on the perils and pitfalls?
Dave