1. bel

    bel Registered User

    Apr 26, 2006
    757
    coventry
    today
    the only time he is away from me just lately is monday 3-30 5-30 his art lessons
    he has had only 3 but he loves it
    when he comes home he is hypa
    i had to tell our kids he is not up to going out for a meal when he has finished
    it feels like i am treating him like a child
    love bel x
     
  2. Grannie G

    Grannie G Volunteer Moderator

    Apr 3, 2006
    68,738
    Kent
    No bel, you are not treating him like a child, you are just more aware than he is of the after effects of over stimulation and excitement.

    You are just looking out for him.

    Happy Birthday Bob
     
  3. connie

    connie Registered User

    Mar 7, 2004
    9,519
    Frinton-on-Sea
    Not to sure of the day but:

    Happy birthday Bob

    Anyway else we can help. Love,
     
  4. elaineo2

    elaineo2 Registered User

    Jul 6, 2007
    945
    leigh lancashire
    Best wishes Bob.love elainex:D
     
  5. Cate

    Cate Registered User

    Jul 2, 2006
    1,370
    Newport, Gwent
    Hi Bel

    You know what is right for Bob better than anyone else, so if you think a meal out would be too much, then go with that.

    HAPPY BIRTHDAY BOB

    Hope you had a good day together Bel.

    Love

    Cate
     
  6. Nutty Nan

    Nutty Nan Registered User

    Nov 2, 2003
    785
    Buckinghamshire
    Dear Bel,
    Worrying about 'getting it right' seems to be part of the deal for us.
    It is so difficult to modify our approach and behaviour towards a husband/ partner/parent as the illness progresses, but I think it is something we have to do in order to keep things going.
    Like you, I am my husband's main carer and I know what works and what is likely to cause problems. Therefore, it is up to me to try and make things as easy as possible, and in our case, that means keeping late afternoons and evenings free so that we can stick to our own little routine, because that is when he is most restless, agitated, etc.

    But guess what .......... It has taken me a very long time to become more assertive, but I still feel uneasy when I ask family and friends to visit at lunchtime instead of the evening, because I suspect they think I am unfriendly towards them and making a big fuss (after all, they usually see him at lunchtime, when he is far calmer).

    So you see: it is easy to tell you not to worry, but to do what you feel is right. It is not so easy to follow my own advice!;)

    You are doing a grand job - hope the Birthday was a very happy one. :D
     
  7. nemesisis

    nemesisis Registered User

    May 25, 2006
    100
    bless
    tell bob belated birthday wishes and I wish I could paint even my decorating is rubbish xx
     
  8. jacqueline100

    jacqueline100 Registered User

    Jun 16, 2007
    12
    Hi Bel,

    Hope your hubby had a happy birthday and continues to enjoy his art classes. I am relatively new to this but I think everyone does the best they can, and if you feel a meal out is a bad idea then it is.

    Have a good day

    regards

    Jacquie
     

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