My father in law has vascular dementia, and for at least 6 months now has been talking about the other people in his house (he lives alone). There are several children who hide and move things, and mess with his hose in the garden, and a man who he thinks is the boss of the house - who moves things around, who takes things, and who sleeps in his bed. Whenever something needs doing around the house, he says he will have a word with the man and get him to sort it.
We have covered up the mirrors in case it was his reflection causing the problem, but he sees him in rooms where there are no mirrors or reflective surfaces.
He is very concerned about offending this man, or doing things to annoy him. When he goes to bed he sleeps on the side of the bed so the man has plenty of room. He thinks his wardrobes are the man's wardrobes (even though I have put up signs with his name on), so he takes his clothes out and stuffs them into other drawers.
Today, he wants us to talk to the man with him. Previously, we have listened to his stories about the man and the children, and just nodded and made non-committal noises, then changed the subject, as recommended by others on this forum, and it works okay. We've never told him that they are all a figment of his imagination.
So how do we deal with it now? Should we tell him that we can't see the people, or should we just fob him off and say we'll talk to them later? The problem with that is that he gets irritated when things are constantly put off. He wants us to talk to him now because his hearing aids have gone missing, and he thinks the man has taken them.
Any advice very welcome!
We have covered up the mirrors in case it was his reflection causing the problem, but he sees him in rooms where there are no mirrors or reflective surfaces.
He is very concerned about offending this man, or doing things to annoy him. When he goes to bed he sleeps on the side of the bed so the man has plenty of room. He thinks his wardrobes are the man's wardrobes (even though I have put up signs with his name on), so he takes his clothes out and stuffs them into other drawers.
Today, he wants us to talk to the man with him. Previously, we have listened to his stories about the man and the children, and just nodded and made non-committal noises, then changed the subject, as recommended by others on this forum, and it works okay. We've never told him that they are all a figment of his imagination.
So how do we deal with it now? Should we tell him that we can't see the people, or should we just fob him off and say we'll talk to them later? The problem with that is that he gets irritated when things are constantly put off. He wants us to talk to him now because his hearing aids have gone missing, and he thinks the man has taken them.
Any advice very welcome!