stick to your guns
it always amazes me how decisions were made by people who have never even met my mother, yet the opinions of those who knew her best were ignored
My advice is
Write to the chief executive of the Trust. Make it clear that social services have gone against medical advice, your mother is a vulnerable adult and you feel she is being put at risk.
Speak to your mothers Gp. Ask him or her to assess you mother if they havent already done so. Ask if you can have a copy of the report.
Is there someone who could go to the best interests meeting with you for moral support? Social services normally turn out in force. it's so intimidating if you're on your own.
Make a list of all your concerns, and the points you want to make before the meeting . Before you leave, give it to the chairperson and say you want this list put on record.
Try to keep on the right side of social services, especially your mother's care manager. we got on the wrong side. What ensued was like trench warfare!!
Make sure you get everything in writing either by e mail or in a letter. Ask for a copy of the written notes of the meetings, and take your own notes as well.
If all else fails get legal advice. Most Solicitors offer a free comsultation. Sometimes just the threat of legal action is enough.
I'm truly sorry that you're having to go through this. Stand up for your mother and what you feel is best for her. I worry if you don't go to the meeting that it will play into the hands of Social Services. I wish you the very best of luck.