patience is key - and it's not an easy virtue !
this problem does not go away when people go into care - the tragic paranoia, sundowning , rage and fury may persist followed by charm, common sense and the vision of a once wonderful person! of course, they are still wonderful but it is very wearing trying to reason with someone whose mind has become capable of unguessable twists and turns. It's not even easy not to try to reason. At least as a nurse I can go home after being accused of allowing all and sundry in to steal, wreck the heating system, starve etc. people in my care. this is a reason why I struggle with the notion of CCTV in care homes - I can see the point in cutting down terrible care but the number of people I know who believe the smoke alarms are 'spying' on them is amazing ! One day (please God) there will be an answer to all this ! Meanwhile try to keep smiling everyone - be patent if you can !
this problem does not go away when people go into care - the tragic paranoia, sundowning , rage and fury may persist followed by charm, common sense and the vision of a once wonderful person! of course, they are still wonderful but it is very wearing trying to reason with someone whose mind has become capable of unguessable twists and turns. It's not even easy not to try to reason. At least as a nurse I can go home after being accused of allowing all and sundry in to steal, wreck the heating system, starve etc. people in my care. this is a reason why I struggle with the notion of CCTV in care homes - I can see the point in cutting down terrible care but the number of people I know who believe the smoke alarms are 'spying' on them is amazing ! One day (please God) there will be an answer to all this ! Meanwhile try to keep smiling everyone - be patent if you can !