Its over 4 yrs since Mum & Dad last went on holiday together, and 4 yrs since various health issues for both, and Mums Alzheimers diagnosis 2013 and Dads cognitive impairment diagnosis 2014.
Mum goes on and on about the pair of them going away on holiday.
So far we have given non committal answers and basically gloss over it or have changed the subject.
I have told Mums sisters not to mention to Mum if they are going on holiday.
Now I have my sister and family going on a cruise, and feel we should have kept that quiet also.
Today Mum asked me about booking her and Dad a holiday. She knows she needs my help to do so.
Thinking of what to say...?
Sorry Mum the stress of Dad looking after you alone would be too great.
Sorry Mum, who would do your medication?
Sorry Mum, you know the pair of you would get lost, and you would be disorientated waking up in a strange place.
Sorry Mum, who would answer your questions when most confused.
Sorry Mum, who would help you find your lost plane, bus, train tickets, your money that you have hidden?
Sorry Mum, neither you or Dad know how to use your mobile phone in case of emergency.
So all I could think of was, Mum I'm sorry but I don't think its a wise idea to go on holiday without me or my sister to help you both. What if there was an accident or you needed our help. You wouldn't know who to call or what to do?
And Mum agreed
I thought she would put up some resistance, and tell me she could use her mobile phone.
It's so hard seeing your parents lose less and less independance.
We have taken Mum & Dad away for the odd weekend and over night but It is getting harder to do so. 2 nights away seems to be enough for Mum.
I often wonder if Mums "going on holiday" is her version of wanting to go home?
Mum goes on and on about the pair of them going away on holiday.
So far we have given non committal answers and basically gloss over it or have changed the subject.
I have told Mums sisters not to mention to Mum if they are going on holiday.
Now I have my sister and family going on a cruise, and feel we should have kept that quiet also.
Today Mum asked me about booking her and Dad a holiday. She knows she needs my help to do so.
Thinking of what to say...?
Sorry Mum the stress of Dad looking after you alone would be too great.
Sorry Mum, who would do your medication?
Sorry Mum, you know the pair of you would get lost, and you would be disorientated waking up in a strange place.
Sorry Mum, who would answer your questions when most confused.
Sorry Mum, who would help you find your lost plane, bus, train tickets, your money that you have hidden?
Sorry Mum, neither you or Dad know how to use your mobile phone in case of emergency.
So all I could think of was, Mum I'm sorry but I don't think its a wise idea to go on holiday without me or my sister to help you both. What if there was an accident or you needed our help. You wouldn't know who to call or what to do?
And Mum agreed
I thought she would put up some resistance, and tell me she could use her mobile phone.
It's so hard seeing your parents lose less and less independance.
We have taken Mum & Dad away for the odd weekend and over night but It is getting harder to do so. 2 nights away seems to be enough for Mum.
I often wonder if Mums "going on holiday" is her version of wanting to go home?
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