@Dutchman
I completely understand your need to not directly deal with the loss of the license. Is there someway you could have the doctor tell her.
The car and driving was a huge loss for my hubby. He would not give it up. And of course, he was functioning pretty well back then, when he had to give up the car. But his decisions in traffic and reaction time were terrible and he ended up hitting a cyclist.(luckily she was unharmed). But in the end, I had to sell both the cars because he would not quit driving. Luckily, his anger was directed at his doctor not at me because the professor said to him he could not allow him to continue driving. The children were hugely relieved as they would have made him quit sooner than I did.
My latest fib (for my peace of mind) is around the cash card. My husband managed to lose his wallet a month ago in a parking lot. (He loses it all the time, but this time he really lost it)
Happily, a kind, honest Swiss person it was returned. Everything in the wallet. I took out a bunch of cards...but he can still recognise that cash card and he wanted it back. Of course, he has not been able to access for over a year or more.
I removed it and did not give it back.
He was upset but as we are really much further along our path of understanding and retention, he forgot again. After 15 minutes or so and I was able to distract him. He has not asked about it again.
He lost his Omega watch for 6 months....I found it in the laundry room in the rag bag. But he insists on wearing it. And he plays with his wedding band constantly, moving it from one hand to another. I suspect that we will lose both these items before we get to end. But there are somethings I wont fight him on.
I completely understand your need to not directly deal with the loss of the license. Is there someway you could have the doctor tell her.
The car and driving was a huge loss for my hubby. He would not give it up. And of course, he was functioning pretty well back then, when he had to give up the car. But his decisions in traffic and reaction time were terrible and he ended up hitting a cyclist.(luckily she was unharmed). But in the end, I had to sell both the cars because he would not quit driving. Luckily, his anger was directed at his doctor not at me because the professor said to him he could not allow him to continue driving. The children were hugely relieved as they would have made him quit sooner than I did.
My latest fib (for my peace of mind) is around the cash card. My husband managed to lose his wallet a month ago in a parking lot. (He loses it all the time, but this time he really lost it)
Happily, a kind, honest Swiss person it was returned. Everything in the wallet. I took out a bunch of cards...but he can still recognise that cash card and he wanted it back. Of course, he has not been able to access for over a year or more.
I removed it and did not give it back.
He was upset but as we are really much further along our path of understanding and retention, he forgot again. After 15 minutes or so and I was able to distract him. He has not asked about it again.
He lost his Omega watch for 6 months....I found it in the laundry room in the rag bag. But he insists on wearing it. And he plays with his wedding band constantly, moving it from one hand to another. I suspect that we will lose both these items before we get to end. But there are somethings I wont fight him on.