Hello I'm Pauline. Having a tearful day. My husband has alzheimers. He is becoming worse. Urinary incontinent. Wears pads but still wets down his trousers and around the toilet. Disguards the pull on pants wherever and doesn't see how unacceptable this is. Coughs up phlegm and runs to the sink to spit it out but never rinses it. He is deaf but doesn't see the need to wear the hearing aids. To get him to hear me I have to shout. He tells me not to shout at him. He is to have an endoscopy on Saturday and I am dreading the clearing of the bowel beforehand, in fact I don't think I can do it. There, don't know if I feel any better writing this all down . Still crying.