Hello. I know OH can't help it with his vascular dementia, but I am getting desparate. I ask him to do things and I have a "yes" but no action. I ask and ask until I flip and end up doing a loud scream to burst the emotional boil in my head. (not directed at him, but therapeutic for me). He won't do a routine even when encouraged and it has been suggested by an AgeUK dementia advisor.
I am reaching overload even with help from various sources. He won't put his hearing aids in so I have to repeat things or raise my voice, but even when he is wearing them he is hard to get through to. He can't process instructions, yet he remebers some things from earlier and found something we had lost without being asked to do it which was helpful.
Yesterday I had to give step by step instructions for him to help me do a rubbish tidy up. He has a bad mental block when it comes to sorting things out. I cannot do it myself at the moment due to bad back and sore knee.
This morning he didn't manage to get out of bed without ending up on the floor. He is clearly getting worse.
Thanks for reading.
I am reaching overload even with help from various sources. He won't put his hearing aids in so I have to repeat things or raise my voice, but even when he is wearing them he is hard to get through to. He can't process instructions, yet he remebers some things from earlier and found something we had lost without being asked to do it which was helpful.
Yesterday I had to give step by step instructions for him to help me do a rubbish tidy up. He has a bad mental block when it comes to sorting things out. I cannot do it myself at the moment due to bad back and sore knee.
This morning he didn't manage to get out of bed without ending up on the floor. He is clearly getting worse.
Thanks for reading.