Hello
I have what may be a rather bizarre topic to discuss.
So from the headline you will probably gather that my family is Asian. I just wanted to know if certain cultures treat dementia in different ways? Good and bad.
One of my aunts said that in our culture we have no word for 'dementia'. So you are either called normal or 'mad'!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I really detest this label and I know that people in my mum's 'former' circle of friends had been treating her badly and excluding her from social gatherings and so on. I used to think her increasingly argumentative nature was because she had few close friends and only had my dad, brother and me. But now clearly her brain doesn't work in the same way anymore.
So, does anyone know if the Asian community is like any other? My dad was reluctant to tell people she had been diagnosed. He said no people will take advantage. I screamed at him. I said people are doing that anyway. Being rude, excluding her, looking at her funny, not talking to her anymore, making fun of her odd behaviour. Seriously how worse could it get? My mum is so isolated.
I decided to start telling people myself when mum went into hospital recently and these same 'friends' were ringing the house and my mobile non stop to ask how she was. Yet not one person came for a cup of tea when she was out of hospital. I said to one Aunt I wanted to let you know that mum has been diagnosed with dementia. The reply 'oh yes I know'. And I thought well if you know then why do treat her like ****? I then realised that telling my mum's friends seemed to have little impact.
I asked my mum's Consultant how many Asian patients she has. She looked at me and said not many!!!!!!!!!!!!! HUH! How can this be?
This disease does not pick and choose which ethnicities to descend upon.
So, please anyone with some advice, knowledge, anything please reply. Are we under-educated, ignorant in this field? Or do we have parents with dementia left untreated and just at home. And no one talks about the changes in behaviour and care needs? I do not know any other relative, friend, friend of a friend who is in a care home, or has home care. Nothing?
I have what may be a rather bizarre topic to discuss.
So from the headline you will probably gather that my family is Asian. I just wanted to know if certain cultures treat dementia in different ways? Good and bad.
One of my aunts said that in our culture we have no word for 'dementia'. So you are either called normal or 'mad'!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I really detest this label and I know that people in my mum's 'former' circle of friends had been treating her badly and excluding her from social gatherings and so on. I used to think her increasingly argumentative nature was because she had few close friends and only had my dad, brother and me. But now clearly her brain doesn't work in the same way anymore.
So, does anyone know if the Asian community is like any other? My dad was reluctant to tell people she had been diagnosed. He said no people will take advantage. I screamed at him. I said people are doing that anyway. Being rude, excluding her, looking at her funny, not talking to her anymore, making fun of her odd behaviour. Seriously how worse could it get? My mum is so isolated.
I decided to start telling people myself when mum went into hospital recently and these same 'friends' were ringing the house and my mobile non stop to ask how she was. Yet not one person came for a cup of tea when she was out of hospital. I said to one Aunt I wanted to let you know that mum has been diagnosed with dementia. The reply 'oh yes I know'. And I thought well if you know then why do treat her like ****? I then realised that telling my mum's friends seemed to have little impact.
I asked my mum's Consultant how many Asian patients she has. She looked at me and said not many!!!!!!!!!!!!! HUH! How can this be?
This disease does not pick and choose which ethnicities to descend upon.
So, please anyone with some advice, knowledge, anything please reply. Are we under-educated, ignorant in this field? Or do we have parents with dementia left untreated and just at home. And no one talks about the changes in behaviour and care needs? I do not know any other relative, friend, friend of a friend who is in a care home, or has home care. Nothing?