Hi, I've posted a few times but at a crossroad now. Dad has VD, in a care home for 12 months with many ups and downs. He has been very depressed and sleeps all the time, he is very compliant. He has severe anxiety and is in tears when we visit a lot of the time. The home staff keep saying he chats to them and other residents at mealtimes and is jolly. I visited a couple of days ago and he had a look of terror on his face and even when I spoke his terror expression remained, he then slumped on the bed crying saying he was desperate and scared all the time. The doc has recently increased his antidepressants to combat the anxiety. My question is, do we reduce visits to a bear minimum, as he seems to be at his worst when we are there. Are we the cause of his distress because we remind him of his previous life. My sister and I visit every other day as we want to keep a check on his personal care as the home don't do it. It breaks my heart, to see him so distressed. Leeds x