Hi, I am reading many posts with interest in relation to my 80YO mother whom I have been living with for 12 weeks whilst i wait for a house to complete. Its been a very challenging time; and quite a few tears shared in regard to her behaviours which I have never seen before and there is very little escape from as i wfh mostly (which has been difficult in itself).
Mum is very aggressive verbally - normally there is a "danger" time just after she has had her dinner at 5pm. Its almost like she is a different person now - rude, aggressive, cynical, a few threats of being hit around the head for something very simple such as a light not being put on or warming the oven. I now try and shut conversations down if I know they are heading in the wrong direction.
What I have particularly noticed is the verbal repetition when she is moving around the house or doing small jobs - "oh dear" "Give me strength" "oh oh", "oh god, "god help me", "I have no idea". In a few minutes, these words can be said 50-60 times, over and over - this morning they started at 4.30am when she woke up for the loo. I am not sure if she is self soothing or if its something else. Prior to the cycle of words, she used to make mouth clicking noises but these have stopped. She has also become obsessed with a local high profile murder trial and is then frustrated when others don't share the same level of interest - trying to speak to the GP surgery staff about it etc. This past week she has made a number of unnecessary calls to 999. All this being said, if my brother calls or family and friends - she appears a different person - jolly and interested. In terms of health, she has been poorly with leg ulcers but these are being maintained - she is however very infirm and there have been a couple of recent falls.
I feel awful writing this because she is my mum but these behaviours.. its very much like walking on eggshells and living with her in the short term - there hasn't been any escape. My grandmother had vascular dementia but she presented very differently to my mum. Has anyone else experienced similar? Could these be early symptoms of an issue. Thank you for reading.
Mum is very aggressive verbally - normally there is a "danger" time just after she has had her dinner at 5pm. Its almost like she is a different person now - rude, aggressive, cynical, a few threats of being hit around the head for something very simple such as a light not being put on or warming the oven. I now try and shut conversations down if I know they are heading in the wrong direction.
What I have particularly noticed is the verbal repetition when she is moving around the house or doing small jobs - "oh dear" "Give me strength" "oh oh", "oh god, "god help me", "I have no idea". In a few minutes, these words can be said 50-60 times, over and over - this morning they started at 4.30am when she woke up for the loo. I am not sure if she is self soothing or if its something else. Prior to the cycle of words, she used to make mouth clicking noises but these have stopped. She has also become obsessed with a local high profile murder trial and is then frustrated when others don't share the same level of interest - trying to speak to the GP surgery staff about it etc. This past week she has made a number of unnecessary calls to 999. All this being said, if my brother calls or family and friends - she appears a different person - jolly and interested. In terms of health, she has been poorly with leg ulcers but these are being maintained - she is however very infirm and there have been a couple of recent falls.
I feel awful writing this because she is my mum but these behaviours.. its very much like walking on eggshells and living with her in the short term - there hasn't been any escape. My grandmother had vascular dementia but she presented very differently to my mum. Has anyone else experienced similar? Could these be early symptoms of an issue. Thank you for reading.