After a series of very unpleasant and unsatisfactory interactions with the memory clinic, I've come to the conclusion that as a service to support my mum it is now irrelevant, as is social services. Neither organisation listens to anything I say about how mum is. I've had two independent agencies conduct a needs assessment and a capacity assessment and both those agencies found my mum without capacity to make decisions about her care and also that she needs more care than she is currently receiving. I don't seem to be able to get either the memory clinic or social services to accept this and neither of them hear me when I say: "I cannot and will not look after her." As she's self-funding anyway, I was wondering whether to just have her dementia care moved to the private sector? I'd be interested in other people's experiences.