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Hello
Have not been on here for a while. To update, unfortunately, I could not get my sister (who has Alzheimers & Vascular Dementia), back to the UK from Germany. She is in a home in Bavaria. It's a long story!
I have visited several times and due to visit again soon. It's taking its toll both emotionally and financially. I would appreciate any suggestions on what to do when I visit my sister - something she might enjoy. She doesn't know who I am, we can't have any sort of conversation, I don't speak German so can't talk to the carers, so I just sit there. After about an hour, my sister can get very aggressive and I start to get upset and have to leave. Trying to go out for a walk with her is impossible due to dressing problems. I am always on my own when I visit (no support from family) and spend a lot of time aimlessly going around the small town where she is, feeling traumatised at seeing my sister in such an awful state.
Sorry, this is a bit of a rant and hope it doesn't seem as though I am feeling sorry for myself - well I am a bit I suppose! Any comments / suggestions would be appreciated. Thank you.
Hello
Have not been on here for a while. To update, unfortunately, I could not get my sister (who has Alzheimers & Vascular Dementia), back to the UK from Germany. She is in a home in Bavaria. It's a long story!
I have visited several times and due to visit again soon. It's taking its toll both emotionally and financially. I would appreciate any suggestions on what to do when I visit my sister - something she might enjoy. She doesn't know who I am, we can't have any sort of conversation, I don't speak German so can't talk to the carers, so I just sit there. After about an hour, my sister can get very aggressive and I start to get upset and have to leave. Trying to go out for a walk with her is impossible due to dressing problems. I am always on my own when I visit (no support from family) and spend a lot of time aimlessly going around the small town where she is, feeling traumatised at seeing my sister in such an awful state.
Sorry, this is a bit of a rant and hope it doesn't seem as though I am feeling sorry for myself - well I am a bit I suppose! Any comments / suggestions would be appreciated. Thank you.