on how to convince a teenager he ought to visit his Granny? A few weeks ago following a few very difficult incidents where Mum was very unpleasant to him, Jon announced he wasnt going to see Granny again. And has stuck to his word. For a little while mum actually didnt notice as she cant easily tell the difference between my two boys, but now she has got obsessed with when she is going to see him. Jon was never as close to her as Steven , the older boy,as she moved away when he was quite young, but I am as concerned for him as I am for her as I think he will regret it when she does die. Ive tried telling him that, pleading, asking him to do it to help me , telling him she is ill but he remains adamant. He is not visiting and thats that.