My husband is very angry he thinks people are stealing from him, his drivers license was just taken away very very upset. And I can’t say anything….. Does anyone have any kind of idea how to deal with this? I truly try not to say anything.. He blames me for it! And No he didn’t except the diagnosis from the dr.
Anger with Dementia
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Hello and welcome, sad when violence comes into the equation as a carer and as a man getting beat up by my 4foot 10 and a half inch wife wasn't too much of an issue for me.
Anger can just be a phase he's going through but please stay safe, have a back up plan even if it's just the threat of walking away, the site here will give you the numbers to ring if you need help, take care. K
Anger can just be a phase he's going through but please stay safe, have a back up plan even if it's just the threat of walking away, the site here will give you the numbers to ring if you need help, take care. K
Hello @Lowrai and firstly welcome to this friendly and supportive forum. There is a wealth of shared experience of dementia to be found here and members really do want to help.
I am sorry to read about your husband. It's tough for sure trying to deal with unwarranted, angry outbursts. There is no easy way, even when you know it is the dementia, not your husband.
I am attaching a link which you may find useful, although I am aware it doesn't necessarily cover too much on anger. But you may find it useful for general communication.
One thing I would say though, is, you will never win an argument with a person with dementia, so don't try, because in their mind, they are absolutely right;
forum.alzheimers.org.uk
I am sorry to read about your husband. It's tough for sure trying to deal with unwarranted, angry outbursts. There is no easy way, even when you know it is the dementia, not your husband.
I am attaching a link which you may find useful, although I am aware it doesn't necessarily cover too much on anger. But you may find it useful for general communication.
One thing I would say though, is, you will never win an argument with a person with dementia, so don't try, because in their mind, they are absolutely right;
Compassionate Communication with the Memory Impaired
The following piece was posted a while ago on DSF and made a big impression on me. It is something I have referred to time after time and tried hard to follow. We have many new members who may not have seen it before. Yesterday I posted it on another Thread but thought it might be helpful if...
forum.alzheimers.org.uk
Thank you for your quick response. My husband has been angry most of the time. If I say anything it sends him over. I’m not scared of him but he has a very bad mouth and is very hateful to the people that live in our home. Thank you again😊
Let me share this with you. I use this technique often. It feels counter intuitive if you are being accused of something untrue, but if you begin to mirror their emotions it helps resolve the issue without having to get into confrontation or confuse them further, which can make them distrust you even more.
You're most welcome. I know it's very hard in the moment to not take anything personally or feel like we need to defend ourselves when our loved ones are confused, but this technique has really helped me over the years, I hope it helps a little for you too. x
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