If that works
@Grahamstown I will get one of those white boards. I've had "what day is it today" and "are we doing anything today" a dozen times already and it's not even 8.30 yet. This happens every day. Sometimes I get the same questions in the evening. It's almost as if he feels it's something he has to ask, pre-programmed. Boy is it exhausting!
I have set it up today with NO APPOINTMENTS printed on and propped up right in front of him and when he starts asking today I shall say in as neutral a voice as I can manage, have a little look at your white board. I got it for £2 at one of those small shops which sell everything for office and school. It’s bigger than A4Pen supplied which will rub the writing off but and I use anything like a tissue, cloth.
He has already had a bad start to the day, got up half an hour ago, wobbled into the kitchen and asking in a quavering voice if I would get his tea. When I took it to him he was sitting happily in his chair, legs up, scrolling through his iPad meaninglessly and said I love having my tea brought to me. Since I have been up, doing the clothes, washing up, fixing the filters on the cleaner, heaving myself on and off the floor, for ages, I was not impressed, in fact I nearly hit the roof. So he was instructed to get off his chair, carry on getting his breakfast which I had started and have it! If he goes on like this he will lose the use of his legs, he has trouble getting up and down the stairs now and is so thin it hurts me to look at him. He is now back in his chair and said brightly, no appointments today as he read the board. Result!