I just rang my mum to let her know that the carers are happy to assist her with a bath. She had asked for help and I contacted the very helpful Social Worker who said it wouldn't be a problem. I rang to tell her the news and could tell she wasn't totally convinced. She then got progressively angry (yet again) about the gas cooker. It was turned off several weeks ago as the carer could smell gas and TRANSCO were called in. He turned it off as he quite rightly thought it was unsafe. Everytime I talk to mum or see her she has a go at me about the wretched cooker. She blames me solely for turning it off and that I am lying when I say the carer was concerned about the strong smell of gas. I have told her that I wasn't there at the time and didn't even know about it until a few days later. Anyway she got so angry today that she put the phone down on me and when I rang back she did it again. Why????????? Why do I get the blame for everything? Mum lives on the isle of wight which is a two hour journey door to door and as I work 4 days a week I visit her on a Friday. I have had to reduce it to alternate weeks because I can't cope with the verbal and emotional abuse I get from her. I appreciate it is part of the dementia but still find it incredibly hard. I should not have rung her today, I realise that now but I thought she would be pleased about the bath. I just feel really cross and upset, AGAIN.