So David died on 12 December and it is still unreal and too real at the same time. Together with the family I am sorting out stuff for the funeral. I have two poems which I think are spot on but they are sad. I am sad but it seems that now at a funeral you are supposed to "celebrate the life of the deceased". I am fine with this but it sort of feels as if there is a taboo on mentioning dementia. My husband was an extremely bright, kind and articulate man but for the last seven years of his life he had dementia. I do not want to dwell on this but also I do not want this airbrushed out.
Should I shut up and put up? Throughout the time David and I were together we were honest with each other. To not even mention this feels dishonest but if it makes it more difficult for others.... I just don't know.
It feels to me that in the way that cancer was unmentionable years ago, now it is dementia that has to be sanitised.
What do others think?
Tre
Should I shut up and put up? Throughout the time David and I were together we were honest with each other. To not even mention this feels dishonest but if it makes it more difficult for others.... I just don't know.
It feels to me that in the way that cancer was unmentionable years ago, now it is dementia that has to be sanitised.
What do others think?
Tre