Hello.
I've just posted my first post in the 'welcome' thread. I'm repeating some of that here.
My dad has mid-stage Alzheimer's. He got it early. He's only in his 60s.
His main carer was my mum. She's just been diagnosed with cancer. She had a serious operation yesterday and is in hospital.
I've just taken leave from work and am trying to get my head round everything. It's all pretty overwhelming. But not as overwhelming as it is for my dad.
I'm still getting my head around the basics of dad's care -- what the GP does, what social services do, etc. I'm sure I'll be asking for help on those kinds of things.
But the main thing I could do with advice on right now is how to help my dad with the trauma of mom's condition.
He had a steady routine with her, and they ticked along OK. But obviously this has completely floored him. He knows she's got cancer, but can't retain the details. He wants to see her in the hospital, but then can't remember he's seen her -- but does remember the emotional impression of it.
Althought I'm (completely!) new to the 'carer' role, I know about the 'thinking' / 'feeling' worlds of Alzheimer's patients; I've use ideas from 'Contented Dementia' when I'm with my dad, and have always been good at getting him to a 'happy place' in conversation. But this is completely different obviously. Utterly overwhelming for all of us.
If anyone has any thoughts at all, that'd be amazing.
I've just posted my first post in the 'welcome' thread. I'm repeating some of that here.
My dad has mid-stage Alzheimer's. He got it early. He's only in his 60s.
His main carer was my mum. She's just been diagnosed with cancer. She had a serious operation yesterday and is in hospital.
I've just taken leave from work and am trying to get my head round everything. It's all pretty overwhelming. But not as overwhelming as it is for my dad.
I'm still getting my head around the basics of dad's care -- what the GP does, what social services do, etc. I'm sure I'll be asking for help on those kinds of things.
But the main thing I could do with advice on right now is how to help my dad with the trauma of mom's condition.
He had a steady routine with her, and they ticked along OK. But obviously this has completely floored him. He knows she's got cancer, but can't retain the details. He wants to see her in the hospital, but then can't remember he's seen her -- but does remember the emotional impression of it.
Althought I'm (completely!) new to the 'carer' role, I know about the 'thinking' / 'feeling' worlds of Alzheimer's patients; I've use ideas from 'Contented Dementia' when I'm with my dad, and have always been good at getting him to a 'happy place' in conversation. But this is completely different obviously. Utterly overwhelming for all of us.
If anyone has any thoughts at all, that'd be amazing.