I have been caring for my mother for 8 years. She is at the stage of force feeding and does not converse anymore, not even the embellishing that is so familiar. I left my job years ago because my employer was constantly leaning on me about FMLA. Oh it is against the law but they can do it so smoothly that you are not aware until it is all over you I started my own home business to compensate and the pressure to perform and to care for a love one is still there. I miss my mother very much and sometime I sit up (my sense of humor keeps me afloat) and say "What did you do with my mother?" My mother replies "I don't know". It have been a long 8 years. I have lost friends, family and jobs. I have 5 siblings that state they can not handle it. So I have. I have stopped being angry with them because it took so much energy and thinking. It was killing me. Last night I got upset with my mother because she was scared of me. She cried and I did too. Today she knows me so I'm all right again. I am the only one that she knows. My advice to anyone dealing with the first stages of Alz's is to sit down and get all the information you can about family history, their feelings about certain events that have taken place and that will take place. Sit down, calm down and adjust your seat belt. You are in for the ride of your life and your love ones life. Signed: Getting some of the pain out.