How to cope when each day I'm expecting to get the call that Dad is at the end? Yet that call never comes. Dad has Alzheimer's and is in a care home. He has been in bed for months mostly sleeping and can do nothing for himself. He has good and bad days. On a bad day he will either be asleep or just stare at the ceiling. On a good day he will focus on the person present and speak a couple of words. He still knows his brother sometimes but that is all. On occasions the staff at the home have called to say that he isn't taking fluids/breathing has changed and I think the end is coming. Yet he then improves again apparently just taking enough fluids and a couple of teaspoons of porridge to keep going. It's so sad and unbearable to witness. I feel that he is trapped in a way that he would have hated and that also I am trapped. The situation with Dad has taken over my life for years. and I can't switch off. I love him and have always done my best for him (although he wasn't always easy) as he did for me but now I feel almost broken by it. It is all that I think about even when I am going through the motions of daily life. Each day I think, will it be today? My husband is so supportive but I don't really have anyone else to talk to. For the first time in my life I have started to have panic attacks. I have tried to find support but everywhere is overwhelmed. Please does anyone have any advice on how to manage in this situation? I was with my Mum to the end and want to be there for my Dad even though he may not know it. I know that it sounds selfish but the situation is destroying me.