1. Jilly606

    Jilly606 Registered User

    Dec 7, 2017
    27
    Hi, 3 years into my dads diagnosis, he’s becoming aggressive, and mum has her first bruise from him. He can’t remember these episodes later in the day, but it’s becoming more common on a daily basis where he talks down to my mum, nasty to her, accuses her of having an affair 20 years ago which isn’t true, he won’t allow my mum to tell anyone, she’s scared if he finds out she’s told me he’ll get angry with her, he’s starting to say terrible things in front of my children but sometimes he’s just back to normal with no problems :( at our wits end, I know he won’t go see anyone, won’t got to Docs’s etc
     
  2. Xeenies

    Xeenies Registered User

    May 19, 2014
    77
    Sorry to hear this. I’m about 4 years into my dads diagnosis. If it helps I think it will pass. My dad used to constantly tell my mum to get a new husband, that she was a man hater and wouldn’t let him do anything which wasn’t true, but he’s stopped now.
     
  3. Normaleila

    Normaleila Registered User

    Jun 4, 2016
    693
    Hi Jilly. Violence is not acceptable. Your mother can't be expected to care for him if that puts her at risk. Are SS involved? They need to do assessments for both your father and your mother. They are both vulnerable adults and there's a safeguarding issue.
     
  4. Jilly606

    Jilly606 Registered User

    Dec 7, 2017
    27
    fingers crossed xeenies, a few hours light relief today where he seemed to go back to normal, as if this last few days hasn’t happened, but nasty dad is resurfacing as we speak.

    Not sure how helpful social services are going to be, he doesn’t think anything is wrong with him, he wouldn’t let memory clinic duty officer in yesterday, they were intimated by him and walked away saying they can’t help if he won’t engage, so that was pointless, they diagnosed him in the first place!! My dad wouldn’t let social services near him, why can’t memory clinic listen to what we’re saying and try some other meds? They would if he was in a home
     

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