Mum is 86 still lives at home and my sister and I share the care…
She spends a fair amount of time on her own but we provide meals and get her shopping , gardening finances go to doctors appointments. Etc
We know we are fast approaching a time when she will need more care but she will not allow me to move in with her or allow anyone other than her daughters come in the house to help her .
Mum has extreme anxiety about so many things and she can be very awkward she has changed from a lovely kind mum who wouldn’t say a nasty word to anyone to someone we don’t recognise.. She accuses us of stealing her belongings my sister of stealing money because she is the one who shops for her it’s very upsetting .
I phone her twice a day and she asks me what the day is several times on both calls…
She says her lovely neighbour is a spy and lots of bizarre accusations.
She is currently fixated on food she gets very agitated if try to fill the cupboards or fridge … She has been surviving on crumpets and trifles or anything sweet my sister often sees the dinners she takes to her thrown in the bin…
I’m going to stay with mum for a few days tomorrow and it has been arranged for a week or two and mum has become extremely agitated and anxious … She has told me not to bring extra food in the house she has plenty ( she had none) My sister tried to take some provisions round today and mum Got very angry with her.
Why does it bother her so much if there I food in the house…
Maybe I shouldn’t go and stay anymore if it bothers her so much .
Mums dementia is not diagnosed because
Mum refuses to go to doctors
The gp is very unhelpful and although they are aware of mums behaviours memory problems do not offer any help.
Is this behaviour normal for people with dementia?
She spends a fair amount of time on her own but we provide meals and get her shopping , gardening finances go to doctors appointments. Etc
We know we are fast approaching a time when she will need more care but she will not allow me to move in with her or allow anyone other than her daughters come in the house to help her .
Mum has extreme anxiety about so many things and she can be very awkward she has changed from a lovely kind mum who wouldn’t say a nasty word to anyone to someone we don’t recognise.. She accuses us of stealing her belongings my sister of stealing money because she is the one who shops for her it’s very upsetting .
I phone her twice a day and she asks me what the day is several times on both calls…
She says her lovely neighbour is a spy and lots of bizarre accusations.
She is currently fixated on food she gets very agitated if try to fill the cupboards or fridge … She has been surviving on crumpets and trifles or anything sweet my sister often sees the dinners she takes to her thrown in the bin…
I’m going to stay with mum for a few days tomorrow and it has been arranged for a week or two and mum has become extremely agitated and anxious … She has told me not to bring extra food in the house she has plenty ( she had none) My sister tried to take some provisions round today and mum Got very angry with her.
Why does it bother her so much if there I food in the house…
Maybe I shouldn’t go and stay anymore if it bothers her so much .
Mums dementia is not diagnosed because
Mum refuses to go to doctors
The gp is very unhelpful and although they are aware of mums behaviours memory problems do not offer any help.
Is this behaviour normal for people with dementia?