My husband has had Alzheimer's for just over 3 years. He has deteriorated a lot this year, with some awful long-lasting meltdowns, accompanied by strong feelings of wanting to commit suicide. He had to be sectioned (section 2) at one stage and has now been in a care home for three weeks.
I had a severe carer breakdown and I'm slowly recovering.
He is so desperate to come home, as well as being bored and frustrated at his loss of liberty. The conversations keep going round and round in circles and he gets very upset.
I’ve been trying to keep things in the ‘present’ by saying that I’m still unwell and I can’t look after him as well (which is perfectly true, although I am improving).
I also say that we just need to take things one day at a time.
He’s also said why can’t he just come home for a w/e. I don't think it would be sensible for him to come home, even for a w/e because if he had another bad meltdown, we would go round the loop again of waiting 7 hours for an ambulance to take him to A&E and then possibly being sectioned again. Even with no meltdown he wouldn't want to go back to the care home again.
Does anyone have any advice on how to converse with someone who is so desperate to come home?
I’m also wondering whether the doctor would be willing to put him on a stronger medication but from what I’ve heard that would probably next be an anti-psychotic drug (not something they would do lightly). He’s already on Rivastigmine & Memantine.
Any advice/tips would be extremely helpful.
Friends tell me not to feel guilty but I find this situation heartbreaking for both of us.
Thanks
Helen
I had a severe carer breakdown and I'm slowly recovering.
He is so desperate to come home, as well as being bored and frustrated at his loss of liberty. The conversations keep going round and round in circles and he gets very upset.
I’ve been trying to keep things in the ‘present’ by saying that I’m still unwell and I can’t look after him as well (which is perfectly true, although I am improving).
I also say that we just need to take things one day at a time.
He’s also said why can’t he just come home for a w/e. I don't think it would be sensible for him to come home, even for a w/e because if he had another bad meltdown, we would go round the loop again of waiting 7 hours for an ambulance to take him to A&E and then possibly being sectioned again. Even with no meltdown he wouldn't want to go back to the care home again.
Does anyone have any advice on how to converse with someone who is so desperate to come home?
I’m also wondering whether the doctor would be willing to put him on a stronger medication but from what I’ve heard that would probably next be an anti-psychotic drug (not something they would do lightly). He’s already on Rivastigmine & Memantine.
Any advice/tips would be extremely helpful.
Friends tell me not to feel guilty but I find this situation heartbreaking for both of us.
Thanks
Helen