I’m sorry you aren’t getting the support you need. Do NOT feel guilty about considering a respite placement for your husband. When you were nursing (a) you had days off (b) you didn’t have the emotional skin in the game you have now, and (c) your own life wasn’t being destroyed too.Thank you all for replies and advice. My daughter had already spoken to the GP and the crisis team and Admiral nurses and a psychiatrist.
It seems no one really wants to help when you need it. The situation is taking its toll on me and my daughters. However my daughter has arranged a visit to a care home for an assessment to see if they will take him for respite. I feel guilty about this as I was a nurse for 40 years and thought that I could look after him.
Hi @AuroaThank you. Today myself and my daughters went to look around a care home with a view for an assessment and respite. I couldn’t take it and burst into tears.
It just reminded me of my days when I worked in geriatrics ( now care of the elderly).
Even though OH doesn’t recognise me a lot of the time and tells me to get out, swears at me, has locked me out I couldn’t do it. He is still physically active and rarely sits down always needing to do something, even though he doesn’t like me cleaning the house, talking on the phone etc. I know I need to do something but it’s so hard, tomorrow we will have been married for 45 years. He is 75 and I am 68.
I'm sorry you aren't getting any help. Our GP was hopeless. The crisis team and following that the team from community health care have been really helpful to us. My OH wasn't aggressive but respiridone helped to settle him and reduce the hallucinations so keep fighting to get the help he needs.Hello I am Auroa and my husband has severe dementia. He is becoming aggressive and I am struggling to cope
Good to hear that you’ve had some help. I hope things settle down soon.Just wanted to let you know that we have seen a psychiatrist today and OH has been prescribed Mitazapine and Respiridone, and now have access to CPNs.
It’s a start, we have to see the effects after 2 days if positive will titrate, otherwise….
That sounds like a positive step. So glad you have some help. Fingers firmly crossed for you that things are settled now.Just wanted to let you know that we have seen a psychiatrist today and OH has been prescribed Mitazapine and Respiridone, and now have access to CPNs.
It’s a start, we have to see the effects after 2 days if positive will titrate, otherwise….