Hi
@Taggert , my MIL always has a very quick answer to everything and she always seems plausible but cannot remember the conversation topic within seconds of the end. Despite this it still takes some visitors several visits to realise how bad she is! We saw someone ring her door wanting money for a takeaway meal yesterday so OH rang her. Yes, a white, middle aged man had called and of course she had not asked him in. In reality it was a young asian man who she asked inside several times!!
People from adult social care do not usually diagnose dementia - the GP should be assessing her to see if there are any other possible causes for poor memory such as diabetes or hypothyroidism and then be referring her to memory clinic if all the routine bloods are normal and she has failed a basic memory screening test.
Our Admiral Nurse ( a specialist nurse who supports carers of people diagnosed with Dementia) says that the early stages are the hardest in some ways. MIL fought against any care we tried to put in place for a long time, now a few years down the line she lets carers in then sits down and just lets them get on with their job.
Even now if I need to do something for MIL that I know she will not like I feel sick beforehand, anticipating an argument