I've been looking after mum who's now had altzhimers for about 5 years. Dad passed away last year due to cancer and mum came to live with me and my husband. Mum's still very aware of things and very capable of making her own choices and decisions, also very capable of making drinks food and her own hygiene routine. She has short term memory issues but can remember when prompted or reminded.
My issue is that a completely false allocation from someone has been made about mum's care. Myself and my two brothers spoke to the social worker on the phone and she was happy with the conversations, but obviously still needs to come out to see mum and speak to her about her care, health etc. Before dad passed away he asked me to take care of mum and make sure she is looked after. It was both dad's and mum's wishes that my brothers and myself received our inheritance early, mum wants to be around to see us all enjoy it and be part of it. As I have LPA for finances and health/social and I am the executor of the Will, I did this as it was their wishes. We are aware that these gifts of early inheritance are to be still available should she ever need paid for any care outside the family. Although that won't ever be needed as we have a very strong family bond and support each other with respite between ourselves. What I can't understand is why the social worker has asked for hard paper copies of mum's bank accounts. I agreed over the phone, but after speaking with family members and Internet searches it appears that she/I don't have to do this?? We haven't applied for any financial help at all from anyone and to me it looks like they may be trying to do a financial assessment on her. Can they do that when we didn't ask for it. Mum's very aware of this situation and is rather annoyed at it all to say the least. She says it's none of their business what she does. I am more than happy to meet with the social worker and all of the family to speak to her. But not happy about her asking for her bank statements. I think they are trying it on and getting irrelevant information. Should the time ever come ( it won't) that a financial assessment is needed then I would be more than happy to give this information they asked me for. Until I get to that stage. Can I refuse to give the statements to them? Any money she gave us will still be available should she ever need it. She still has money in her account that will cover any issues....
Sorry for the long post.
My issue is that a completely false allocation from someone has been made about mum's care. Myself and my two brothers spoke to the social worker on the phone and she was happy with the conversations, but obviously still needs to come out to see mum and speak to her about her care, health etc. Before dad passed away he asked me to take care of mum and make sure she is looked after. It was both dad's and mum's wishes that my brothers and myself received our inheritance early, mum wants to be around to see us all enjoy it and be part of it. As I have LPA for finances and health/social and I am the executor of the Will, I did this as it was their wishes. We are aware that these gifts of early inheritance are to be still available should she ever need paid for any care outside the family. Although that won't ever be needed as we have a very strong family bond and support each other with respite between ourselves. What I can't understand is why the social worker has asked for hard paper copies of mum's bank accounts. I agreed over the phone, but after speaking with family members and Internet searches it appears that she/I don't have to do this?? We haven't applied for any financial help at all from anyone and to me it looks like they may be trying to do a financial assessment on her. Can they do that when we didn't ask for it. Mum's very aware of this situation and is rather annoyed at it all to say the least. She says it's none of their business what she does. I am more than happy to meet with the social worker and all of the family to speak to her. But not happy about her asking for her bank statements. I think they are trying it on and getting irrelevant information. Should the time ever come ( it won't) that a financial assessment is needed then I would be more than happy to give this information they asked me for. Until I get to that stage. Can I refuse to give the statements to them? Any money she gave us will still be available should she ever need it. She still has money in her account that will cover any issues....
Sorry for the long post.