Hello All. I've posted before about my own dear Mum but this time it is about concerns about my mother in law. She has always been a rather histrionic personality and has always had, to my belief, undiagnosed mental health problems. She is 87 and lives with her husband who is 91. She hates her husband with a passion and the whole family are really concerned for his safety (she is verbally abusive 24/7 and has threatened him with a bottle to his head in the past) She has tantrums and calls family several times a day in an argumentative fashion. Quite often she says she wants to die. The family have managed to get someone from the GP practice to come and give her a memory test. All we know is that it involved a clock face and she didn't do well on it. The GP surgery won't discuss anything with the family because of patient confidentiality despite several long and carefully worded letters being sent to him about our concerns. My father in law has told us all not to mention his birthday coming up as she will become even more abusive so it is hard for us to talk to him. If my husband asks to speaks to him on the phone, his mum becomes quite abusive to both him and hid dad. There is a family party tomorrow (I year old!- great grandson) so all of us are going. Walking on eggshells springs to mind. Has anyone any ideas? (about the blasted confidentiality though any thoughts would be welcome.) Thanks