Dear Sylvia, I'm very sorry that things went awry. But as people have said, at least you tried. Glad you are anyway home safe and sound. Love Deborah
This morning he said he wishes he could just be normal, and not a freak.
Grannie G said:This morning he said he wishes he could just be normal, and not a freak.
One member of my family suggested it might be time to consider `putting him in a home.` I`ll say no more.
Absolutely!Grannie G said:My criteria for contemplating a home for my husband would be, a residential placement would have to reduce my stress, rather than increase it.
At this stage, it would certainly increase it.
Brucie said:You are doing really well, Sylvia, though I very much doubt you would agree at this stage.
.a residential placement would have to reduce my stress, rather than increase it
Margarita said:Sylvia,
Did you see This morning breakfast .
They had a phone in I miss it , but my daughter said that a woman rang saying that her mother had put her father in care home , he had Parkinson and Alzheimer's .
The presenter said someone once told her , that now the Wife can stop being the carer and be his Wife again .
as in care home she see to his emotional side rather his Physical needs , so become his wife again .
my daughter was surprise when the person burst out crying on TV .
when told that.
Grannie G said:This Forum is truly amazing. Each and every one of you, a group of `strangers` from all over the world, know and understand more about the position we find ourselves in than any member of my family, apart from our son.
Margarita said:The other day someone intrude me as This is isabel Daughter , I said No I am her daughter Margaret
I feel I have lost being her daughter , with the view of society and now am her carer.
So they saying if I put my mother in care home I became the daughter again, Not her carer
Just wondering what are other people perception of this
They could try to put themselves in my shoes, but had no way of trying to put themselves in Dhiren`s shoes.
Somehow I feel he was on `automatic pilot`, walking in a familiar direction, but without a purpose, just walking, because he`d trodden this route so many times before.
Margarita said:Its strange Its like mum going back to how she was before medication , its like she is having an awaking , maybe medication had a form of tranquilizer in it and its wearing of slowly .
So I better make the most of this time with her , as I look at an old posting when I first started on TP and I said my mother was in stage 5 , she now in 6 .
Just like to add I can so relater to the above & feel that its only my mother not my husband and should not feel like that , but I do