Thank you Loo. I am happy with a smile, I have no idea whether or not Dhiren knows my name or even knows precisely who I am. I will not be putting him to the test. As long as he continues to be happy to see me it`s all right.
Sylvia, having so long dreaded Henry forgetting me, my name, I now find myself beginning to become more accepting, and of course it is part of the progression. We know that, but it is hard.... Must confess I have tested him, asking my name, but shall not do so again, and accept it isn't important, all things considered...
He does obviously know 'me' as someone close, part of his life, even if being his 'wife' is now escaping him. It still deeply saddens me, and especially feeling it just now as our 54th wedding aniversary is on 27th, but I wont be reminding him. I just want him to be relaxed and content, and a smile is precious.
I'm just glad that for him the many months of anguish, despair and not understanding about coming home have ended, that was unbearable for him, and for me to see him in such a state.
I remember you telling me that one day Henry might well become as contented and relaxed as Dhiren, and I found that almost impossible to believe. Now it seems you were right, it is happening.
Thank you for your wise words, and my apologies for doubting it could ever happen. It was so bad for so long, I simply could not foresee any improvement. Of course that comes with the lose of abilities, but that is the nature of the disease. I try to be objective about this, but almost impossible not to also be subjective.
Dementia leads us a dance, not a merry one though, and you never stop learning. The gradual adjusting is harder, as we all know.
Enough blethering, hoping Dhiren is himself again next time. Shall pop in later to see how he is.
Loo xxx