Dear Tina,
I have just read this, catching up. What thoughtful and personal input from your Mum at her own funeral - hurrah for her. And the greenery sounds just the ticket, and RSPCA will still benefit! I loved what your brother posted, and didn't your Mum time it perfectly, past Maggie out and got to outlast her. Sounds like your Mum was a splendid woman, and it is lovely to hear that you and your brother are preparing a send off that she would approve of. It is clear that she was much loved and treasured, and I send my deepest sympathy at the loss of a splendid mother and woman.
Look after yourself, thinking of you, BE