A call received from my dad today asking me to call mum to tell her I am not taking her to get some wool. I felt terrible but work long hours, for some reason she thought I had promised to take her out. At lunchtime dad calls again and asks me to speak to my mum as refuses to eat dinner as I am now taking her for lunch. When I spoke to her she told me I should have said earlier I was not taking her out, I felt really guilty. Dad is struggling coping with looking after mum with dementia. A gardener, cleaner comes in and they do have meals delivered at home. A lady also takes her out 2 hours a week to give them time apart from each other. After work I went and got some wool and took it round and asked mum if she would like a day at a house (day centre) where she could take her crocheting and sit with other ladies and chat but she said she does not want that. Should I just book her in for a day? I don't know what to do. Tonight my dad has called moaning the cleaner has moved mums morphine but then he found it. I have has a bad day at work and don't know what to do for the best. Sometimes I wonder if I should give up work and take over the care, however I know this would not make my other half happy. Feeling useless!!